Today Drew and I were having a great conversation and somehow the topic of his grandma (Alice Schenzel) came up. I just stopped and said "I miss not knowing her. I think I would have really liked her". Grandma Schenzel passed away about 10 years ago to cancer. Her death was way too sudden and entirely too early. I know her death left a huge hole in all of the Darr's and Schenzel's hearts. A hole in my heart grew after meeting their sweet family and hearing all the amazing stories of Grandma Schenzel. I miss her and I have never formally known her. Her influence on Drew and his family though is incredibly obvious.
From what I have heard she loved to spoil her grandchildren. That is awesome. That is exactly the kind of grandma I want to be and every child deserves to have. I have seen pictures of Drew growing up and he had amazing outfits thanks to his grandma. I am not even gonna go into how many outfits Ali was blessed with, but you can imagine....a TON. She was a princess in the eyes of Grandma Schenzel, as I am sure Annie and Emily were too.
Over Thanksgiving I got to watch some home videos with her in them. It was really neat. I felt like I got to know her so much better through the videos. I got a feel for her style, her mannerisms, her character, and her reactions with her family. Wow. It made me cry like a baby. Julie and I were sitting on the couch with our hands stuffed with tissues out crying each other. It made me so sad to have not known Grandma.
Julie has told me that her mom loved bling. I love that. I think she and I would have gotten along well because I also love bling. The louder and more sparkly the better! In all seriousness though, I feel a strange connection to Grandma Alice despite never meeting her. I love her for who she was to her family. I know they are unique because of her love. I wish I would have known her. I would have loved to have gone shopping with her! I would have loved being spoiled by her I am sure! I would have loved sharing traditions that revolved around Grandma and Grandpa Schenzel's home. I bet it was magical, especially around Christmas. In general I love grandmothers, but Alice was special. She was Drew's grandmother.
Grandma Schenzel,
I know you are looking down on all of the Schenzel and Darr clan. I know you are so proud of who your children and grandbabies have become and are excited to watch in joy as their futures continue. I just wanted to say thank you for your influence on them, and thus on me. You raised a remarkable daughter who is a great wife, mother, and mother-in-law. Thank you for spoiling Drew and loving on him so much. He is such a sweet and sensitive guy and I am sure that has to do with you. He talks about you all the time. He misses you. We all do. I am so glad I get to know you even if it is through their memories and stories. Thank you for your legacy.
Love,
Mary Beth
Mary Beth,
ReplyDeleteHere I am at Starbucks near our house, tears in my eyes, about ready to drop down my cheeks. Thanks for your words, your heart. Mom would have adored you. She most likely bestowed serious amounts of bling on you. Drew was so special to her. Anyone who loves mom's kids and grandkids were an automatic hit with her. Thanks again...you're amazing!
Tell your husband, our nephew we love him as well.
Ty
Thank you for writing about Grandma. She would have LOVED YOU! I always tell Paul how much I wish He could know Grandma... like you he loves watching home videos of us as kids with her in them. She truly was an AMAZING grandma. She really made Christmas magical.
ReplyDeleteMary Beth,
ReplyDeleteI am just getting around to reading this and I am crying. You would have loved Mom and she you. Drew was very special to her and she would be so pleased to see what a wonderful. precious wife he has to do life's journey with. You are a beautiful writer. Keep writing girl. I wish you all lived closer to us or us to you. Blessings!!!